Having an optimistic outlook on life can take you a long way. When you start transforming your way of thinking from a negative outlook to a positive one, your life opens up in ways you never would have expected, both in your relationships with others and even your physical appearance. It’s easy and natural for our minds to wander to ‘the dark side’ every once in a while when things don’t go our way or stresses are thrown at us from every direction. However, it’s important to step back, think about the situation, and realize when you have the capabilities to change something or when you should just let it go. Releasing bottled up tension is so critical to your well-being, and is the only way to truly allow yourself to free your body and mind for more important things in life such as your health, goals, love and relationships, and puppies of course.
Positive thinking is vital for your success. For instance, you are more likely to get a job when you envision yourself being perfect for the position – believing that you have the skills and capabilities to succeed in the job, and envisioning positive outcomes. You build up your self-esteem instead of telling yourself that you aren’t worthy of the position or aren’t good enough. When you perceive yourself as not good enough for something, that negative attitude comes across in your demeanor. It shows to others that you don’t believe in yourself, which in turn makes them question your capabilities. Studies have proven that if you visualize yourself succeeding, you are more likely to! Your confidence beams and you come across as more likable, happier, and easier to get along with.
Positive and negative thinking are contagious. When someone is negative, that rubs off on those around them, ruining everyone’s day. Don’t let that happen to you! Spread positive vibes wherever you go, and it will spring back at you in ways you never would have expected! Yes, negativity is something that everyone struggles with, including me! No one is perfect, but just recognizing when you are being negative about a situation is a great step in the right direction.
Benefits of having a positive mindset:
Enhances a sound mind and peaceful attitude
A negative mindset can put you at a higher risk of experiencing depression and anxiety. When you focus on the bright side of situations, your whole demeanor switches over from a tense, stressed state to a more relaxed, calm state. This makes you less irrational and better able to view the tasks at hand with a productive, composed mindset that is better able to withstand unnecessary pressures and make difficult decisions with ease. This in turn makes your goals feel attainable and increases those desires to succeed.
Strengthens not only the mind, but the body as well
When your mind is calm and your thoughts are uplifting, this decreases the amount of stress hormones in the body. Stress can reveal itself in so many different ways on the body. Be it lethargy, weight gain, hair loss, premature aging, inability to sleep, and SO MUCH MORE! Turning our frowns upside down during activities that would normally cause us to pull our hair out decreases the stress hormones that cause our bodies and mind to overreact and go into frazzled mode.
With less stress hormones, you may notice your skin improving as well! Eczema, rosacea, psoriasis, and acne can all be byproducts of stress. The hormone cortisol gets released when you are stressed, which can cause your glands to produce more oil. Tone down your stress, and you may rid yourself of these problems.
Increases self confidence
Having a positive outlook on life beams out of you in every direction! It makes you feel more confident, excited about things, and genuinely happy. It’s the same concept as forcing yourself to smile when you are feeling down. A big smile increases feel good hormones, even if you are faking it! Isn’t that odd?! Odd, yet motivating! 😉
When you are happy, it makes people want to be around you more often! It’s as simple as that! Positive vibes rub off on other people, and a happy mindset makes you more open, approachable, and pleasant to be around. It makes your relationships with people more honest and healthy. I’m not saying to bottle things up to simply come across as happy, either. I’m talking about knowing when to be open with people and have honest conversations. Tough conversations are necessary for growth, so go into those conversations with an open mindset void of any negative assumptions. Deep conversations can turn dismal fast, but just being aware of the possibility and prepared for it can keep things light and moving in the right direction.
Enhances resistance to illness
That’s right, folks! Being negative all the time can be draining on your immune system! It makes you feel sluggish, resentful, and unhappy, which in turn can wreak havoc on your health! Be open to new situations and go into things with an excited outlook. Happiness is a stress reliever and immune system booster!
Ways you can diminish stress in your life and create HAPPY VIBES
Be able to recognize when a situation may be out of your hands. You did your best and there is nothing more you can do in that circumstance, so it’s best to just let it go. Maybe there is something you can do in a certain situation, but it may be the end of the day when you are lying in bed. If this is the case, tell your mind that there is nothing you can do at that very moment, and you will start fresh in the morning.
Learn to shut your brain off come bedtime! Set a rule for yourself that once your head hits that pillow you aren’t going to think about anything other than bunnies, puppies, and happy thoughts! I find that when I focus on daydreaming I actually fall asleep faster (usually within 5 to 10 minutes!) than when I’m focusing on real life situations. Give it a try! What works for me may not work for you, but either way, putting daily events out of your mind will probably work in your favor. In fact, don’t even bring those thoughts home with you! Leave your problems at the door because there is no point in dwelling on things that cannot be changed. That includes complaining about things as well. You may need to vent for a couple minutes when you get home if your day was really rough, but after that, try not to bring it up again. It will be healthier for you AND your relationships with your loved ones.
Focus on breathing. When lying in bed at night, focus on breath-work. Lay on your back with your arms at your sides and palms up. Take long, deep breaths in through your nose and slowly release them back out through your mouth. I often breath in for 6 counts, hold it for a few seconds, and then breathe out for 12 counts. Your lungs may be different than mine, but the whole point of the exercise is to focus on your breathing because it is SO relaxing. This is even beneficial to do if you are feeling stressed and overwhelmed at work! Simply sit at your desk, shut your door for a few minutes, and find your happy place so you can finish the day focused, relaxed, and energized.
Consider essential oils. Certain essential oils promote relaxation or can uplift your mood. For instance, lavender, chamomile, cedarwood, or sandalwood are great relaxation boosters while citrus blends, rosemary, peppermint, bergamot, or ylang ylang can uplift the spirits when you are feeling down.
Keep a journal or write uplifting notes to yourself in your calendar. Write everything you are thankful for or simply just compliment yourself. “Damn, you are looking fine today! You are going to be positive and vibrant and happy!” Celebrate yourself and your accomplishments, be them large or small.
Keep good company with people that are positive and have a similar mindset and interests. You want friends that are willing to sweat with you, work hard with you, and reiterate to you that you are worthy enough to go after your goals in life.
Surround yourself with pictures of you having fun and experiencing happy events. This will put your mind in a place where you were experiencing happy emotions, and hopefully remind yourself what that felt like. If trying to lose weight, post a picture of your slimmer self that makes you look happy and reminds you why you have that goal and the things you will be able to do once you achieve that goal. Yet don’t do this if it just makes you sadder. Find out what works for you and what doesn’t.
Learn to shrug it off. People will always make nasty comments or undermining insults that are disguised as compliments. Learn to shrug off those comments instead of dwelling on them. It doesn’t do you any good to hold onto that negativity. And stop hanging out with those people! They are no good for you or your happiness!
Actively partake in events that make your soul smile. This may include biking, painting, hiking, hanging with friends, going to sporting events, or cooking. Whatever makes you want to jump out of bed in the morning!
Find a quiet spot to sit, ponder, and reflect. Preferably somewhere with fresh air, sunshine, and lots of green plant matter. 🙂
Take care of your body. When you nourish your body with real, whole foods and exercise regularly, it’s proven that your mind will be in a better place. Exercising releases feel-good hormones that make you smile! Plus you will look good and feel good which will in turn promote a healthy, happy brain.
Acknowledge negative thinking, and deflect it. When you recognize that you are being negative, you can do something about it! Don’t let it control your life! Realize that you are being negative and make a point to flip the switch on it and somehow turn it into positive thinking. For instance, you get called into work when you were really looking forward to hanging with your friends that day. Instead of griping about it all day, think about how much money you are saving not blowing it with your friends. Now you can put it toward something that you really need, such as a new car or using it to pay off student loans or other payments you may have.
Need more tips on how to feel happier? Check out my post on how to become your most accomplished, HAPPY self!